Nowhere But in BDSM is Quite so Much Personal Opinion Passed off as Irrefutable Fact! That is perhaps not very strange in a lifestyle that is characterized by having no recognized authorities, just sensible guidelines, and no universally defined standards, only gut feelings. Many people are after all vaguely disturbed by anything that doesn’t fit neatly into a box or onto a chart. Because of this lack of uniform definitions, no approach to the lifestyle has been more misunderstood – indeed often deliberately maligned – than the absolute lifestyle. In the absence of any attempt to define it, over-active imaginations have had a field day, as much to the detriment of lifestyle D/s at large, as to the embarrassment of those who have succeeded only in demonstrating their own narrow-mindedness.
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Seen from the admittedly biased vantage point of the absolute lifestyle, BDSM as a whole has depreciated remarkably over the past twenty or thirty years! It would seem that the downward spiral has finally hit rock bottom, not with a resounding crash, but with a soft, apologetic and nearly inaudible “Thud”. To hear the “Experts” talk about it these days, one is left with the distinct impression that BDSM is either a sexuality or a mental illness. What the mainstream claims about itself is, on the face of it at least, their own business. However, it rubs off unfavourably on the rest of us, and that makes it ours, too.
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I Have Spent a Great Deal of Time Recently Thinking About BDSM! What causes someone to get involved in BDSM? For some people it is a mental or psychological need, for others it is physical in nature. They answer to the “Why” varies for everyone. Read the rest of this post…

At the age of 35, divorced and realising I had the rest of my life to enjoy, I started to explore what I was missing. It became apparent that I was missing out on something, erotic was more than foreplay and 1000 positions and videos, and I started to explore realising that I was still on the market for erotic.

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